My husband is a hoarder who refuses to acknowledge he has a problem. We’ve had huge arguments over the years about it and my entire every day life is filled with managing our home so it remains livable, relatively tidy (and clean) and the clutter is confined to pockets of certain rooms. I also end up throwing out my own things to make space for his, as I don’t care about letting things go but can’t throw out his things without his permission. One room is a bit of a junk room and most of our storage space is taken up by his ‘collections’. Our attic also takes alot of his hoard and I dread the day we have to move house. We had a baby last year (and even bigger incentive for me to keep our home clean and tidy!) and now I know where he gets it from. Enter, his mother. She is addicted to buying gifts and brings new toys, clothes and books almost every week. Christmas and birthdays she always goes overboard too. It’s generous but I’m overwhelmed and it’s just adding to my stress (baby has more than enough things!) how do I say it gently and politely without coming across as ungrateful and without offending her? She’s a very nice person. My family were always minimalist, tidy and we aren’t that big on gifts so this has been a massive change to navigate the past few years for me.
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