I’m in the middle of the yet another big clean as a friend of mine is coming to stay with me for a long weekend, and I can’t help but feel resentful that she has “made” me do the clean.
Obviously, no one makes me do anything and the majority of my friends know I’m a hoarder; though only one has actually seen my flat at its worse, which makes me think they don’t really understand how big of a problem it is for me.
For context, I have quite a few close friends from school and university who don’t live in the same town as I do, and it ends up being 3-4 times a year that someone comes to visit. I usually try to get out of hosting, and some of them have suggested paying for a cleaning before they come, but it’s not about the clean it’s about the clutter.
I live in a quite touristy town, so other accomodation is quite expensive so I have also developed this strategy of suggesting dates when some of my friends in my town will be away, so my out of town friends can stay over at their places, covering some minor bills, but obviously this is also a hassle to organize.
I never actually actively invite anyone over since I know how stressful it would be, and I don’t know if I should just start saying hard No when anyone suggests coming over. Would that make my flat even worse?
I really wish I could invite people over without dreading it, but for the moment it just stresses me out.
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